The inner child

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Inside each and everyone of  us is an inner child. Even the touchiest person you know with a strong exterior who may show little emotion has a beautiful, playful and delicate inner child.

Sometimes things can happen when we are younger to wound that inner child, causing adult childish behaviour. That is why it is important to love our inner child.

Have you said hello to your inner child today?

It has also been said that if the trauma was bad enough parts of who we are is stuck there, causing the inability to move forward with certain thing in our life. There is hope for healing and it begins by learning to nurture that inner child.

A person cannot truly grow and know their worth about them selves when they are being put down by their surroundings and they can’t change their surroundings if they do not know any better, so they continue to live how they feel they need to live. That is why I feel there is no one to blame here. It’s impossible to move forward if we do not know any better. As soon as we start to take responsibility for ourselves in this way, we can start to grow and move forward by loving the that part of ourselves.

There is hope for getting out of that uncomfortable cycle if you find yourself in one like I did.
For me personally it took looking into my heart for answers, praying for the right teachers to present themselves and also praying that I would be open to their insights and suggestions. Each new day is a chance to grow and better myself. Some days it feels like I took a few strides backwards. When this happens I try to be gentle with myself and I start again tomorrow.
My biggest teacher is my son. The love of my life, my world.
Inner child work is helping me heal, so I would like to share my research below:
From Wikipedia: “inner child” refers to all of the sum of mental-emotional memories stored in the sub-conscious from conception thru pre-pube.

Definition from Wikipedia: -inner child is our childlike aspect. It includes all that we learned and experienced as children, before puberty. The inner child denotes a semi-independent entity subordinate to the waking conscious mind.

Click on the link below for more detailed info on the inner child. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evil-deeds/200806/essential-secrets-psychotherapy-the-inner-child

Steps to start healing and connecting with your inner child from the link above:

1. Become conscious of your inner child.
2. Learn to take your inner child seriously by consciously communicating with the little boy or girl. To listen to what he or she needs.
3. Parent the inner child like you would parent your own. Setting rules, loving and nurturing him or her.

More from Wikipedia: The Twelve-step program recovery movement considers healing the inner child to be one of the essential stages in recovery from addiction, abuse, trauma, or post-traumatic stress disorder. In the 1970s, the inner child concept emerged alongside the clinical concept of codependency (first called Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome.). These topics remain very active today.

This makes sense to me, because if a person is going in circles in life and can’t seem to get past something it could very well be their wounded inner child crying and acting out.

 

Here are a few ways I connect to my inner child.

  1. Guided inner child meditations.
  2. I listen to my inner child by closing my eyes and asking her,”what do you need from me right now?”
  3. When I look in the mirror I express to her positive affirmations (using affirmations is like becoming your own parent.)
  4. I find time to play and laugh.
  5. I comfort her when she is scared, by reminding her, “everything will be okay, I am here for you, I will never leave you.”
  6. I turn on Whinnie-the-pooh from time to time to calm her down (this is easy to do since I have a one 1/2 year old.
  7. I give my child hood teddy bear a squeeze.

Take time to love your inner child today.

You’re important.

Every part.

Lots of love!

❤ Alisia

 

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4 thoughts on “The inner child

  1. Thank you so much for this eloquent and well written exposition on how to relate to one’s inner child. I’m trying to learn how to do this – I’ve found it very challenging, but I know it’s worth the effort. I continue to work on it with my therapist.

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